In his divorce filing in 2006, Chris Rock compared marriage to “shooting himself in the head”
The nation was surprised to hear that Chris Rock has filed for divorce from his wife, Malaak Compton-Rock. The two announced that they are going to split after nearly 20 years of marriage. But this is not the first time that the two called it quits and told the world that they were done.
Back in 2006, Rock also filed for divorce from his wife, and even hired attorneys to represent him in divorce proceedings. Ironically, Rock was in production for the film, “I think I love my wife” at the time of the original filing. Rock also made some interesting remarks (below) comparing marriage to shooting himself in the head. He seems to feel that for men, getting married means having to let go of your freedom to be your “individual self.” These remarks were made just one year before his filing, so there may have been some truth to them, at least in Rock’s experience.
At the time, Rock’s two daughters, Lola and Zahra, were just 4 and 2-years old. Now that the girls are a bit older, let’s hope they can sustain the pain of divorce a little easier. We also hope that this is another false alarm and that these two are going to be able to make it through the rough waters of Hollywood relationships. Marriage isn’t for the faint of heart, so think it over before you take the plunge.
Chris and his wife were married in 1996. He’s now pushing 50 years old, so this may be part of a mid-life crisis or a necessary life adjustment for both of them. Also, celebrity marriages are difficult, no matter who you are. According to psychotherapist Gary Neuman, many of these relationships fail because spouses are not able to spend much time with each other. Far too often, being a working actor means being on the road a lot, and being physically detached from your partner can lead to a psychological detachment as well. Here is what Dr. Neuman says about remaining connected to your spouse, according to his research:
My research of over 400 married women in my book, Connect To Love, showed that the number one indicator of happiness in a marriage was the amount of time spent with one’s spouse. Women who were happily married reported spending a daily average of over 30 minutes of uninterrupted time talking to their husbands. Unhappy women reported a daily average of less than 30 minutes, and 24 percent of those unhappy reported that they spent less than five minutes a day talking to their spouses.
For the record, here’s what Rock had to say about being married. He made these remarks to NBC’s Stone Phillips back in 2005. He’s making a joke about all of this, but some jokes are just so painful to listen to that you have to wonder if the person is finding a way to laugh to keep from crying.
“If you’re a guy, [your individual self] is dead. Get rid of you. Take yourself to the door and wave. Hey, see you later. It sounds horrible. I’m happier than I’ve ever been now that I’ve shot myself in the head.”
Chris’ estranged wife Malaak is the Founder and Executive Director of StyleWORKS; a non-profit, full-service salon that provides free services for women leaving welfare and entering the workforce.
We also hope that this divorce doesn’t get too messy. We already lost Bill Cosby’s image, and certainly hope that Chris Rock isn’t next. Just like Cosby Rock has also said some tough things about the black community and about white people, so it would be no surprise if someone were to try to dig up some dirt on him as well.
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